We are lonely creatures. We seek to connect. We build stories around that. Love or courtship, or marriage.
We create those stories sometimes out of the need to be connected rather than actually figuring those connections are really good for us.
This togetherness is something.
What if we expand this togetherness to more people. To more connections, different levels of intimacy that are larger than the sum of all the parts?
What could that mean? Instead of having one person for everything, you have a person for each different thing you need to form a connection around?
Would that work? Or would we ever be looking for that one person that gets a 75% score of everything we need to be connected to?
Could that person exist? Or settle for that person that gets 40%? Call them our “girlfriend” “partner”, “wife”.
I believe there is space in us to create alternative relationships. I think we already do. We just don’t call them such. We call them friendships. But ask yourself, how intimate are these friendships?
I for one, get this warmth, deep inside when I hear the voice of my best friend, I feel I am safe just because she’s somewhere in the world.
I get this excitement when another best friend tells me she’s visiting town soon, I day dream our conversations and the places I want to take her to.
I get anxious when talking to another best friend about her recent crush or date and how things are progressing.
I am not saying you or me should stop looking for your special person, just saying don’t ignore the ones you already have, they count as well.
Count your blessings.